Hi honey,
There is no secret recipes. Success comes from consistency and effort. Changing is uncomfortable, but staying at the same place is way more challenging.
Always be the best version of yourself
Before starting my self-devolvement journey, I always wondered how. How am I supposed to meal prep, keep my apartment clean, study full time, have a part-time job, keep good relationships with my friends and boyfriend, and on top of that have motivation to go to the gym! Like how is it possible? What makes these people go even when they don’t feel like it? A mix of the books i read and podcast I listen to made me come to the a conclusion. For me, what really helped was the vision of my future-self in the back of my mind. That “better version” of myself was and still is constantly reminding me to move forward. When I feel unmotivated and I feel like I can’t do it I ask myself what would she do?
Feelings are an unreliable source of energy
I don’t rely on my feeling and motivation to do things. Because it is a feeling and it comes and goes. I rely on who I want to be on this day and this lifetime. Remember to be nice to yourself but don’t forget to constantly push yourself to do better everyday. Ask your future self what would she do? Would she scroll on the internet for many hours instead of doing the working out her body need? Uhmmm I don’t think so.
I do things for my future self. I don’t listen to present me because I would recreate the same reality that I’m already in.
Take the time to know and love yourself
Take the time to ask yourself the right questions. Take the time to think about what you really want. Forget about what your family tells you, the society, your friends, your boss, your colleagues. Shut out the noises and listen to your gut. At first, nothing will happen. Don’t expect to hear voices in your head or see a hallucination of god coming right in front of you. In reality, it’s just about listening to your thoughts and emotions. I am not telling you to rely on them to make long term decisions but being aware of how things makes you feel has to be taken into consideration.
Loving myself was a big part of my recovery. I am still struggling but it get’s better everyday. The only advice i can give at the moment is telling yourself positives affirmations really helps. I can assure you results will come, keep moving forward and never look back.
Don’t forget to be kind with yourself. Nobody will love you as much as you can. It is really important to heal yourself to be able to help others.